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Understanding the Art of Letting Go: A Journey Through Time

Updated: Aug 25


It still feels unreal sometimes to see how many wonderful people Abuelita’s has drawn in since its birth. There’s a saying I’ve always loved: if you don’t fit in or belong at someone else’s table, build your own. That’s exactly what I did with Abuelita’s.


And then, something magical happened—the right people appeared at the right time. When I look back at my original vision, at the dream that started all this, and then at the people I found (or who found me), I can see so clearly now: we create our own reality.



One day, we catch a glimpse of what we no longer want.

We acknowledge it, maybe even write it down, but we’re still in awe. How can this be? We try to shush it, to ignore it, but it grows louder, and nothing feels the same anymore. How can this be? I just need more time. But it is the right time. Something is waiting around the corner, and you need space for it, so the clues are more and more visible within ourselves.


We only create space for something new when we let go, starting with our minds. In physical life, our own physical world, we might not be ready to release it yet. Attachment is a real bastard, but deep down, we know. Life moves in stages. And we cannot carry all the old luggage with us.


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This philosophy isn’t unique to me; it’s part of everyone’s journey in some way.

In our sessions, we often see it unfold. We’ll gently invite you to look at your symptoms from a more holistic perspective - not just your body, but your reality: how and where you live, who’s close to you, and why them (or why that). We might ask questions you don’t have to answer right away. Not to us, anyway. Healing isn’t about rushing - it’s about readiness.


The truth is, the body and mind cannot stay healthy if they’re stuck.

That ship (relation-ship, friend-ship, work-ship—you name it) you’ve been on for a while? It’s not working anymore. It’s no longer heading toward your desired destination. So how do you leave it? All at once? Or does it take time to unpack, to release the chains you’ve wrapped around it? Do you need to understand it first, or simply let go? Are you safe to fall? Do you know how to swim? It’s a lot, and you’re already doing amazing just by looking at it. Try not to rush. Patience is key! Most of the time, we need to build a cushion or a floating boat before we jump into the unknown.


But here’s the pattern: the unknown always carries a new message—something nothing short of a miracle—that gives us our next clue to where we’re meant to go.


It’s usually the trauma, the old patterns, and the unprocessed emotions that keep us stuck.

But something shifts when we begin to let go. That ship you once boarded when you were at your lowest, it might have been a trauma bond (a friendship, a homeship, a relationship). It saved you from drowning; you had to take it - there was no other choice, and it's a valuable part of your journey. Contributed to who you are today. And you are grateful, you always were. You gave it everything you had. You tried to fit in, to show your love. But it wasn’t truly seen. Because all along, you forgot to give that love to yourself, too. How can they see you if you don’t see yourself?


And you let go when you’re ready, when you finally choose to look at yourself more. And you still love them, no doubt about it, but you love yourself more.


Other times, it’s simply a habit or an emotion we’ve held onto for far too long, one that once felt like safety but has become a weight. And when we release it, transformation begins. We become someone else entirely. Life is even more powerful and rewarding when there’s acceptance of what was, what has to go, and when forgiveness happens. And then the new you will emerge—that shushed part of you, that shadow that had no space to express. The bad, the good, and the ugly; they are all you, and they need integration before balance appears. And it is so beautiful to watch it grow. It’s your own child. One tip: Be kind to it while it’s learning how to walk. It carries magic.


It’s not easy. It’s rarely comfortable. But it’s the very heart of change.


At Abuelita’s, we hold space for this very journey - the moment you begin to see yourself, to release what weighs you down, and to welcome what’s waiting for you.


We’re here to remind you that you’re not alone in the letting go and that transformation, though never easy, is always possible.


When you’re ready, we’re ready.

 
 
 

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